New Year, No Shade, No Filter and are Women Bossy?

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I. Woke. Up. Like. This. Welcome to MY 2015. Last year, I experienced a war of adversities despite how perfect and glamorous my life may 'seem'.  Not to seem too preachy, but God has really brought me through hell and back in 2014. The beginning of last year, I alluded the utmost confidence in myself, which at times was enough to shock  the hell out of me. Don't get me wrong, I was always a confident person regardless of the situation, setting, or who was watching.



 I'm not the conventional woman, I'm barely 5 ft tall, with big hair, and peter pan genes. I never waited or expected anyone to believe in me. I always had big dreams and chased after goals that were not always approved by family and friends. Haters? I never give them much thought or shine. One of my biggest philosophies in life, is that a "mirror is my ONLY competition". You should always strive to be better than the person you were yesterday.

At 25, my circle of friends has become extremely small. Why? People grow apart and sometimes, you need to have people in circle that share the same goals you have. I don't plan on having a mid-20s mid-life crisis. I'm not chasing after a ring (right now), which does not presumably lead to me not waiting to get married, or that I do not go out on dates. I'm human. One thing, all my past boyfriend's could say about me is that I'm addicted to chasing after my own hustle! It's unusual for a young woman like me to want and achieve the life most can only dream about.

I prefer to listen to artists like Jay Z, verses artists like Katy Perry because I like music that gets my adrenaline pumping. When you're at your lowest, do you really want to be bellowing out tunes such as "'Cause Baby You're a Firework" when you can really express how you feel by saying "I got 99 Problems and a B*tch Ain't One!". Sometimes I feel that women are placed in unwelcoming categories when it comes to goals, achievement, and success. I find that men and women both are guilty of putting down and misjudging women that go against the norms of society

The comments I get a lot about myself are usually mean, conceited, "bossy" or "sassy".  I'm also characterized as prissy, rich (one of my biggest peeves), shy, etc. Being called rich is one of the biggest comments I absolutely hate. If you work for it, therefore, you can buy it. End of story. A woman who is bossy, is not necessarily a bad thing! A woman who is in control of her own life, has the ability to make her own choices without consulting the opinions of outsiders. I don't view the word bossy as being a negative attribute, because it means that a person has full control over their life and makes their goals and dream possible in terms of achievement.