GOALS ON GOALS: Being the Best YOU in 2016!

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There's less than 3 hours before we put 2015 in the past, like a ponytail (a la Drake). I felt compelled to come on here and shed light on putting my goals in perspective and reflecting on what would become a part of the past. During the last 2 months of the year I've been having a bit of a pity party and my Resting B*tch Face (RBF) was on fleek, no pun intended. This year, I took a lot of risks that I normally wouldn't have taken in the past. I was able to stand up for myself in instances where I knew my thoughts and actions would have been judged by others. I accomplished goals and successes, that were well deserved for someone still in their 20s. The second half of this year I was able to get various things in my life back on track and some self-improvement went down on so many levels!



With so many things glittering like gold in my life, came the bad (at least by my standards). I put myself out there in so many ways and literally expected to get my way in certain situations. I believed in working hard for everything I want out of life, while remaining humble. Certain goals or expectations I wanted out of life, should be happening for me at that moment in life. If I dream it, work towards it, it should be mine right? Wrong! Sometimes in life, just because we want certain things to come into play in our lives, we must accept the reality that it simply is not our season to receive these gifts.

I also experienced, shade coming at me left in right by people I considered family and friends. I had to learn that everyone is not going to happy with the blessings you are receiving if they are not being blessed themselves. Taking in all of my ups and downs, I experienced this year, I must remain optimistic about life. Whether you're religious or not God, the universe, or some other spirituous-being has better things in store for your life. If it does not happen today, does not mean it would never happen tomorrow or next week. Patience is really a virtue. My goals for 2016 are practical and are a reflection of how I want to change and live my life for the next 365 days of the year.

My Goals for 2016

Smile More Often: This is something I lost touch with practicing, even if I'm not in the mood the rest of the world doesn't need to visibly know that. RBF should be left behind in 2015. Smiling can do wonders for your overall wellness!

Have a Better Relationship with God and My Family: This one is important for me because I do not regularly attend a faith-based church and I would like to get into reading the Bible more often. I also would like to develop a better relationship with my immediate family. Sometimes I disconnect my personal life from my family and I would like to share more intimate details in my life with them (sans judgement)

Meeting New People: I'm always open for making new friends and learning about other people's experiences in life

Letting Go of Trust-Issues: Despite what others may say, there are some people that can be trusted. If you do not trust you will never know who is truly a good person

Being Unapologetic for My Choices in Life: I should not feel obligated to give an answer or a reason to others for how I live my life. We all learn from our mistakes and that's the only way to grow as a human being

Becoming a Better Lover: Becoming a better lover can apply to family, friends, people you interact with, your career, hobbies, faith, or a significant other. I want to be passionate in everything I do. You cannot expect to be loved if you do not have love for yourself. Loving YOU is key and should always be a top priority

Saving More Money and Spending Less: I will be the first to admit I have made purchases in 2015 as a way to temporarily cope with my feelings (no bueno). If I spend money foolishly on materialistic items, I will never see the bigger picture of purchasing things I actually need like a car and my own home

De-Stressing More Often: My stress level is usually at its peak when I have a lot on my mind or if I force myself to keep working on various projects instead of taking a mental and physical break. Yoga and mediation are activities I want to try and incorporate into my day at least once

Learning New Things: I want to expand my mind more and learn everything there is to know in life, whether it is for career purposes, personal growth, or great conversation starters, knowledge is POWER. Reading for pleasure is also something I want to practice more often. Books can take us to many places we can only dream to imagine

Travel More: I believe I have not been out of the country in almost 3 years, the sky is the limit! 

Accepting My Blessings and Blessings to Come: I consider myself a very blessed person and tend to forget this at times out of selfish reasons. I should always remember not everyone is fortunate to have some of the experiences I have experienced in life thus far. When there's always good there's always the in 'between' and the bad, and bad experiences should not block your blessings to come!


There you have it my goals for 2016 very simple and practical, and I do believe in making these goals a reality in my every day life for the next 365 days of 2016


Happy New Year!!!! xo

Mel